Glamour: 6 Important Questions to Ask Before You Decide to Have Kids
Having kids with someone can have a huge impact on your relationship, regardless of how you plan to bring the child into the world. Here are a few conversations experts say you should have with your partner before you plan a family together. - Do you both actually want this now?It might seem like if you've both agreed to have kids, you're both totally on board. But in some relationships, one person will really want a kid right this moment and the other will be less sure but go along with it, says therapist Maria Bruce, LMHC, NCC, founder of Thanks You Made My Day and Maria Bruce Wellness. It's worth asking yourselves whether you'd both want this kid now if the other didn't, as well as if you're feeling any external pressure from your parents or anyone else outside the relationship.

Having kids with someone can have a huge impact on your relationship, regardless of how you plan to bring the child into the world.
Here are a few conversations experts say you should have with your partner before you plan a family together.

Do you both actually want this now?

It might seem like if you’ve both agreed to have kids, you’re both totally on board. But in some relationships, one person will really want a kid right this moment and the other will be less sure but go along with it, says therapist Maria Bruce, LMHC, NCC, founder of Thanks You Made My Day and Maria Bruce Wellness. It’s worth asking yourselves whether you’d both want this kid now if the other didn’t, as well as if you’re feeling any external pressure from your parents or anyone else outside the relationship.

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